One of the number one lies this generation believes is that God does not want to give them someone worth waiting for. Therefore, we don't wait. Why strive and wait for something you don't believe you are going to get? I mean, it sure wouldn't be so hard if we always had someone telling us they loved us right? Stop right there, because if this is your thought process, you have begun to believe in something that is not real. What do I mean not real? You have started dreaming about a "love" that is centered entirely around you. Well... a love centered around me doesn't sound so very bad does it? I promise you, this is something that can only go horribly wrong. If you are wanting to be in a relationship because you need to feel loved, I can assure you that you will never totally be satisfiyed. You will always be disapointed, hurt, and empty. It almost leads you to start believing there is something wrong with you. "Why will no one actually love me?" you ask. Well it is because your understanding of love is a little bit confused. Love is not something only meant to be recieved, it is meant to be given. If we all saught after being loved, no one would ever actually be loved. That is why God has called us to a selfless love. That is why His greatest act of love was Him sacrificing His son for us.
Not gonna lie, a few years ago, all of this sounded miserable to me. It sounded like if I went about relationships God's way, I'd be stuck serving some man who does nothing for me. I began to believe God had someone extrmely ugly, super dule, and frekishly religous just waiting for me. He most likely was going to have a harry mole on his face to complement his bushy unibrow. No joke, when I saw "strong" Christians I didn't find attractive, I would quickly begin to pray God wouldn't make me marry them. It was like I had no say in the matter. So as you can see, I had very high expectations in a man...
I think I'm maybe not alone in thinking this way. I'd venture to say there are many out there who don't have high expectations. And that is one BIG reason why we don't wait. Let's date all the people we actually "like" befroe we are stuck with Mr/Mrs Mole Face Loser. Believe it or not though, God is a pretty amazing match maker. He created you and he also created someone perfect for you. Unless you are one of the rare jems called to being single, you too have a match made in heaven waiting for you somewhere. Don't believe me? Just find a godly couple you admire and ask them. Oh, well God just likes them more than you... No, He likes you a lot too! He even likes you enough to give you someone your going to really enjoy falling in love with.
Why is it so important to me to share all this? Well there are amazing AMAZING things that can happen when we actually begin to trust God with our love life. On the other hand, there are pretty horrible things that can happen when we don't. Probably many of you have already been through some of those things. You see relationship was created as a form of worship to God. When you find someone who's heart is in line with yours and aiming streight towards worshiping God, God uses that to allow powerful things to happen. All of the sudden all of your weaknesses are met by someone else's strengths and vice versa. When a team like this is used for the kingdom of God... well world, you better watch out! Think about it. Your dreams were planted in your heart by God. Also, the things you are attracted to were planted there by God. Imagine if you got the 2 mixed. Not only did you get someone who you are extremely attracted to, but you get someone dreaming on the same page as you! IT GETS BETTER because, this amazing person would be pushing you to run after your dreams as they ran with you! It's possible... IF you let God be the only one having direct your love life.
Ok... time for the BIG question. What happens if you settle? Sure all this is amazing, but if I have to wait for something like that, well then you can forget about it. Life is too miserable single. I have to watch all my friends be all kissy kissy while I'm alwasy awkwardly stuck as the 3ed wheel. Yay... what an exciting life... There are pleanty of "decent" people out there fairly attractive who I don't have to wait for. People I will be pleanty fine with. You see, that is what you think. That is what many think. And that is why many go from relationship to relationship to relatioship. It turns into this cycle of constantly being hurt so you run to the next person to fix your pain. Before you know it, you have become unfixable. Your joy is fleeting and so are your dreams. You begin to wonder if you will ever be satisfiyed. Is there even actually someone who isn't a liar? Is there someone who will respect you? They just weren't who you thought they would be... Have you felt this before? Do you feel stuck in a cycle of hurt needing to be fixed by someone ASAP. Well, until you hand your love life over to God, I can assure you that you will be stuck in this cycle.
Maybe I am jumping to conclusions or maybe you would be the one exception. I'm just stating what I have observed time and time again. But imagine if this generation actually began to believe God wanted to give them someone worth waiting for? Then we would ALL not only higher our expecations in a spouse, but higher expectations we have on ourselves. If everyone did that, then we would live in a world of people actually worth waiting for. I don't mean in a legalistic way and of course we live to honor God. But I think you get what I mean. It's actually kind of neat to think about. I think it feels good to have a purpose when it comes to relationships. It feels good to be worthy of someone that you may actually one day look at and say, "How did I get someone like you?". It feels good to know, someone may actually even say those words about you one day.
Ok now, so how do we even get there? We get there by falling totally in love with God. Instead of alwasy thinking about who that special someone might be, allow yourself to be captivated by God. The more you allow God to become your number one love, the more you are pursuaded you can only have someone that will make your worshipping of God stronger. The best part is, you always have something to satisfy you and you are not depend on love from someone else because the love of God will be more than enough. You won't need man's love anymore. Captivation with God will fix all your relationship problems in a way. Don't beleive me? Try it out for a bit and watch what happens. You will find a joy and peace which you never knew was possible. You will find your confidence increases because you wont care what anyone thinks. You will find yourself completely satisfiyed. You will find you have become someone worth waiting for.
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